Hi Dolls! I wanted to share some things I have learned and experienced so far as a cosmetologist & more specifically a hair stylist.
Most of these are things that I wish I could say to a client but I can’t, or I relay in a very sweet & polite manner. This is all for educational purposes and slight humor, no negativity intended. 🙂
10 Things Your Cosmetologist Wants You To Know
1. Just because you find a picture of what you want your hair to look like doesn’t mean that YOUR hair can look like that….
Pinterest and the internet is a hair stylist’s best friend and worst enemy. It’s great to find ideas for hair, along with makeup, but unfortunately these ideas aren’t always realistic. That picture of the blonde with the beautiful, voluminous textured updo with the thick french braid across the front of her head is NOT going to look the same on your shoulder length, fine, brunette hair. Yes, there are things we can do to get it there, such as adding extensions, but lets be real with your expectations. Most of these elaborate styles you see online & in pictures are done on models with large amounts of certain hair for this exact reason. Make sure to understand that the same style looks different on everyone! Try to find a style that is possible on your hair type so you are not disappointed when you sit in your stylists chair.
2. If you spend a lot of money on getting your hair cut & colored but buy cheap hair products, you are sabotaging your efforts….
Okay ladies, you can’t go spend $150+ for cut & color then turn around and use your 99 cent Suave. (Yes, I saw a bottle of Suave shampoo the other day for 99 cents) Then, you are left wondering why your hair never looks the way it does when you leave the salon! The way you take care of your hair and the products you use can change everything! They are not called “professional salon products” for no reason. Your stylist is using them because they are the best for your hair and that is partially how they achieve the amazing results that you leave with every 4-6 weeks. Using proper professional products can even save you money in the long run, it can help keep color lasting longer, meaning less frequent trips to your stylist. Using the same products your stylist does and using their styling tips can help you achieve that “fresh out of the salon” look on a daily basis.
3. Similar to #2, Do not buy professional salon products at the grocery store, drug store or anywhere besides a salon….
It really surprises me that people are not completely confused and turned away when they see Paul Mitchell and other professional products at Target or the grocery store! These professional products are only sold to salons and then you don’t think twice when it’s sitting a few aisles away from dog food. I promise you, what you are buying is not the actual product, or well it may have been before. After sitting for years kept by “gray market” buyers who bought them from legitimate distributors, they are no longer the product that they originally were. This is all done so the products can’t be tracked, this whole process is called “diversion”. I’ve even heard of bottles being “filled” with entirely different products (if you can even call it a product at that point) just to make money. I really could go on and on, but I won’t. As a licensed professional, I feel horrible and sightly embarrassed for all of those that clear the shelves at CVS with their new Matrix hairspray. You really should have just bought the real thing from your salon!
4. I can’t tell you how YOU want your hair if you show me 5 pictures of completely different styles, I proceed to try them all successfully, and then you still want me to tell you what I like because I am the professional…
Yes, cosmetology is my profession. It would only make sense that clients would want my input and/or opinion on how they should wear their hair. Yet, I can’t tell you what makes you happy and what it is you are looking for. Make sure you are also relaying exactly what you are liking about each style idea you give your stylist. If all styles, opinions and inputs have been exhausted and you are still confused, you may have to think about why you are even in my chair. One thing I have accepted as a cosmetologist is that there are some people that you just can’t make happy!
5. Every artist needs a good canvas…
Even if I am using the best professional hair & makeup products, which DOES make a difference, it won’t matter in the end if the “canvas” is poor quality. Beauty starts from the inside out. It’s important to take care of yourself and it will show on the outside. Yes, I do understand that we all have that “time of the month” where we feel like our skin literally hates us! Regardless, drink plenty of water and try to eat right, it will do wonders for your skin & hair, also for the overall way that you feel!
6. You get what you pay for…
It’s been proven time and time again; you get what you pay for. This can be interpreted in so many ways but really when it comes to beauty, you get EXACTLY what you pay for. Most people want to take the cheap route when it comes to hair & makeup services. They think “Hey, Judy from next door said she can do my makeup for free, it will be the exact same thing!” Well, no, it won’t be. Believe me, this will only cost you more in the end especially if it is for a special event or if you have to pay for a professional to fix a horrible mistake. All while you were trying to avoid paying the professional in the first place! When you use a licensed & experienced professional you can be sure that they are using the best products to meet your exact needs and also know what is right for you and for photography purposes. You are paying for knowledge, experience, convenience, sanitation, professional products and an amazing result! Don’t take the cheap way out then wonder why you did not get what you were looking for. I promise, “Judy from next door” will not even get close to that amazing picture you just pinned on your Pinterest board.
7. No, I’m sorry, I can’t “give you a deal” because of who you know that knows me….
We all know those people that think they can get something for free. Yes, I have done plenty of “free” work that has gotten me where I am in my career. Yet, these “free” jobs did not involve haircuts & colors for friends of a friend or doing makeup for your big party because it will be “fun”. Don’t get me wrong I LOVE what I do and easily have sympathy for others but not when it comes to my profession. I paid good money to go to school, took the time to get my education, studied and received proper certification and licenses (which I can’t even say this for some of the stylists I know), just the same as any other working professional. I’m not sure why cosmetology is seen less valuable by some when it is in such high demand. I’ll put it this way, you wouldn’t go to the dentist or to the mechanic and expect free services, so why would you expect them from me? I’m sorry, that is just not the way this works and I will leave it at that. Make sure to appreciate your hair & makeup artist!
8. “My hair won’t grow any longer than this…” You’re right, it won’t because it is broken, color damaged and being abused with 450 degree hot tools every single day….
Ladies, hot tools (most of them) have a temperature setting for a reason! Not all textures of hair require you to use them at their top temperature. If you are flat ironing or curling your fine hair every.single.day. at max. temp, all while not getting it trimmed and putting chemicals on it, well…it is not going to grow! (Same goes for any hair type wether you are trying to grow it or not) Then, you go to your stylist searching for a magical answer all while having 1 million layers (trust me, that’s what it seems like to your stylist) because your hair is breaking off instead of growing. I recommend starting around low-medium heat and working your way up from there. No matter what texture hair you have it is best to always give it a break from heat every few days and use a heat protecting product especially if your hot tool does not have a temperature selection. Oh, and don’t forget to deep condition and clarify, build up on your scalp can clog hair follicles and negatively affect your lovely locks.
9. Box Color………………………..
I’m really not even going to get started on box color, we would be here all day! Please, I beg of you, DO NOT use box color! I repeat, DO NOT use box color! You will thank me in the end. Refer to #6 if you have any confusion.
10. Don’t be so hard on yourself….
I find it very interesting how people come to get their hair done (or I go to them) and all they do is criticize everything about themselves. “My forehead is huge”, “Can you put my hair like this so my head doesn’t look so small?”, “I can’t wear my hair like that, my ears stick out”, “I need a facelift, can you make my hair fall in my face to hide it?”. I’ve heard so many countless comments during all my consultations that have nothing to do with hair! Ladies, you need to learn to love yourselves! The only one focused on your “flaws” is you! Also, most of them we make up in our minds. There is nothing more attractive then a confident person! When you are confident you are literally wearing it for the world to see. So next time you go to get your hair done, focus on the amazing new style you will have while still going with something that suits you and your personality. Change is great and theres nothing better than a new hairstyle, but there is truly nothing more empowering than confidence, that is what makes the best hairstyles exactly what they are!